Jackson Heights Life

Local Classifieds & Business => Business Listings and Services Directory => Topic started by: julesnyc on October 13, 2008, 12:49:03 PM

Title: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: julesnyc on October 13, 2008, 12:49:03 PM
Friday, October 24
7:30pm until...

The American People have spoken and they want a Singles Night in Jackson Heights!
Here's the scoop:  Single guys and girls are invited to join us for tasty treats and delicious drinks and the possibility of love.  All we ask is that your bring along a friend of the opposite sex who you think is just divine, but just not for you.  It's all in the eyes of the beholder, you know...

(we will have a Gay/Lesbian singles night as well if we get any requests!  So far it's just our straight latte-lovers who have been asking for this opportunity...)

Please join us - it's the patriotic thing to do!

Espresso 77
35-57 77th Street, Jackson Heights
718-424-1077

 :smitten:
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: broad on October 13, 2008, 02:23:04 PM
Ha this is an awesome idea! :D  Sadly I have plans that evening.... hopefully there will be another!
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Really4rob on October 18, 2008, 07:57:52 AM
This is a wonderful idea. 

(Not for me, mind you, I'm married, but I have two unmarried local friends (JH residents) who I am passing this on to.)

The singles scene was always a bit harsh here (even when I was single in the early 90s), there were few options (Budd's Bar???) in the neighborhood.  The bar/local mini-club scene was more Sunnyside based as I recall.

The singles of all ages must still have a hard time (though I imagine the coffee shops are the answer for the 'Gen Y' crowd) ... one day last month, an older lady (I say that respectfully, but I'm 38 and she looked at least 50), teenage son in tow no less, actually hit on me outside the fruit market and asked for my number! 

So the question this begs is .. the singles event at the cafe, is it all ages?  Seems there would be a 20s night, a 30s night, 40+ etc.  (Because the friends I just emailed about this are both in their 30s.)  Or is more like "any singles all ages feel free to stop by" ...?
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: julesnyc on October 18, 2008, 03:50:00 PM
For this first go-round, it's all ages - the main thing is that people really need to bring along a friend of the opposite sex - that way, the ratio will be even.  We have started dreaming up follow-up singles night ideas and will tailor future nights based on how next week's turns out.

Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Really4rob on October 19, 2008, 08:54:46 PM
For this first go-round, it's all ages - the main thing is that people really need to bring along a friend of the opposite sex - that way, the ratio will be even. 

That totally makes sense ... wouldn't want it to be a bunch of guys and one girl, or vice versa.  Luckily my two unattached friends are male and female, so if they go, they can accompany each other.

Who knows, maybe my not-so-secret admirer from the fruit market may rustle up a man-friend to escort her, and wind up hitting on my friend Conrad.  Its a small world ...
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: tsinnyc on October 24, 2008, 07:04:37 PM
WOW...Will there be a sign on the door saying "FAGS STAY OUT". If the American People have spoken the  times have gone back to before June 27,1969. How would people feel if a establishment had a function in Jackson Heights and said no Indians tonight or Spanish speaking people tomorrow. We are looking for a night for overweight people if we get requests. If that sounds insensitive that's my point. Jackson Height is a very Gay Community with a long struggle. I wonder who the American People are that have spoken? Espresso 77 has many Gay customers like myself who's money is keeping it going, so maybe the patriotic thing to do is spend it somewhere else. I am not alone with this  feeling I hope other people in Jackson Heights will speak up

Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: elyaqim on October 24, 2008, 08:00:44 PM
WOW...Will there be a sign on the door saying "FAGS STAY OUT". If the American People have spoken the  times have gone back to before June 27,1969. How would people feel if a establishment had a function in Jackson Heights and said no Indians tonight or Spanish speaking people tomorrow. We are looking for a night for overweight people if we get requests. If that sounds insensitive that's my point. Jackson Height is a very Gay Community with a long struggle. I wonder who the American People are that have spoken? Espresso 77 has many Gay customers like myself who's money is keeping it going, so maybe the patriotic thing to do is spend it somewhere else. I am not alone with this  feeling I hope other people in Jackson Heights will speak up

The original post, although it has been edited, says, “The American People have spoken and they want a Singles Night in Jackson Heights!” That in and of itself does not exclude gays, especially since julesnyc indicated they “will have a Gay/Lesbian singles night as well if we get any requests!” Not even “enough requests” but “any requests,” so it sounds like a gay singles night might actually be forthcoming. And the post didn’t say gays were unwelcome, but that “So far it's just our straight latte-lovers who have been asking for this opportunity.” And for all we know, some members of the opposite-sex couples who attend may be transsexual. As you say, “Espresso 77 has many Gay customers,” so I wouldn’t leap to the conclusion this is necessarily discrimination. (And for those not in the know, 27 June 1969 is the date of the Stonewall Rebellion credited with galvanizing the gay liberation movement.)
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Shelby2 on October 24, 2008, 11:21:35 PM
The original post, although it has been edited, says,

Just to prevent any further confusion, the original post says it was edited (by me) only because I went back into the post to add the event to the calendar.  I did not change any content.

Shelby2
moderator
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Marlene on October 25, 2008, 12:00:11 AM
Update:
I was standing in front of e77 at around 9ish tonight with my girlfriends and I didn't see much movement.  Where was everybody.  Was I the only married, Puerto Rican, Irish, Italian, straight woman that wanted to attend?  My other Roumanian girlfriends had no clue, but was updated immediately on the event.  I think I saw one gorgeous man inside.  Ladies you missed it.  I think he was hiding behind the counter with Afzal the owner.   
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: rs011885 on October 25, 2008, 12:26:40 AM
I went tonight at 730 and checked back at 830. There was one lady in there and a worker. No one else. I was really disappointed. I even did my hair.

Also, I dont think you should be offended that it was straight singles night, there was no mention that gays were not allowed tonight. I told my gay friend that there might be a gay singles night, and he said he would go. Being straight, I wouldnt go that night because there would be no point for me. A mixed crowd would be fine too but that cafe is so small. Wait, what am I saying? There wasnt even anyone in there tonight... Maybe it should be mixed so at least more than one person would fill a chair.

What a bust.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Marlene on October 25, 2008, 01:07:11 AM
You did your hair.  So did I and it wasn't cheap either. I guess it was hair night.   :'(
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: julesnyc on October 25, 2008, 01:23:53 PM
Tsinnyc, I find your post really inflammatory and personally really hurtful.  If you knew me or my husband, then you would know that we are friendly with and supportive of the GBLT community and that we do not discriminate in who we welcome to our store and who we hire.  Please get to know us!

Dividing things up between GBLT and Straight was really just determined by our space issues.

JH LIfer Aronan and I are working on the GBLT Singles Night as I write...

Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Shelby2 on October 25, 2008, 04:09:21 PM
This initiative reminds me of the cafe, Drip, on the Upper West Side that doubled as a matchmaking service in the neighborhood.  Anyone remember reading about this place in the late '90s?

Personal Ads Draw Love-Parched To (Mainly Coffee) Bar  (http://query.nytimes.com/gst/fullpage.html?res=9805EFD7123CF93BA35751C0A961958260&sec=&spon=&pagewanted=all)

I think the only way the "Drip" idea would work at E77 would be the binder system--not a bulletin board--, and the only way you get to look in the binder is if you agree to submit your own info.  Otherwise, I think people would feel too self-conscious and you might also get too many curiosity-seekers who have no intention of putting themselves out there.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: elyaqim on October 25, 2008, 04:23:12 PM
Was I the only married, Puerto Rican, Irish, Italian, straight woman that wanted to attend?

That’s cute. Even if the event had been packed wall-to-wall with people, you still might have been the only one to fit that description. :laugh:

I think I saw one gorgeous man inside.

I’m sorry I missed him. :(

Maybe it should be mixed so at least more than one person would fill a chair. ¶What a bust.

Hmm. This event may be friskier than I thought if more than one person would be in a chair, particularly if one of them has an ample bust.

JH LIfer Aronan and I are working on the GBLT Singles Night as I write...

I love him. He’s such a do-gooder in the community. (And for those not in the know, GBLT stands for “Gay, Bacon, Lettuce and Tomato,” a popular sandwich in the gay community. :laugh:)
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Aronan on October 25, 2008, 06:42:07 PM


I love him. He’s such a do-gooder in the community. (And for those not in the know, GBLT stands for “Gay, Bacon, Lettuce and Tomato,” a popular sandwich in the gay community. :laugh:)

Thanks Adam : ) I've never been referred to as a do-gooder before and there are some on this board who have other names for me (bleeding heart I think was one of them) ; )

Hopefully we'll be able to pull off a GLBT event at E77 similar to the one we had at Terraza. We can show the straight folk how it's done ! (that was a JOKE, PLEASE don't flame me (I'm flaming enough ha ha ha) )

TL I'm sorry you feel that way, Julie and E77 have been nothing but warm and welcoming to the GLBT community in JH, which is more than I can say for some other establishments. I hope you and those that feel the way you do change your minds and continue to support a great addition to our community.

Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: tsinnyc on October 25, 2008, 07:14:50 PM
Julesnyc... Sorry if I said anything hurtful.  The line the American people have spoken and it is the patriotic thing to do.When it comes to people meeting people of the opposite sex  Was hurtful to many of us too. The Gay Community comes from a history of being seen as, illegal and Un-American and can still not do the patriotic thing as to serve the military openly. I am sure you and your husbands are good people with good intension's. But things must be said.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: toddg on October 26, 2008, 12:15:45 AM
But things must be said.

Not all things are thought through enough to be worth saying.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Aronan on October 26, 2008, 12:28:35 AM
TS I'm right there with you. But we must consider who our friends and enemies actually are before attacking them.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: tsinnyc on October 26, 2008, 05:10:51 PM
TS I'm right there with you. But we must consider who our friends and enemies actually are before attacking them.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: tsinnyc on October 26, 2008, 05:14:55 PM

Just making a point. Maybe one day we can sit down and talk about this. "Remamber the struggle" 
Title: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Marlene on October 26, 2008, 10:46:25 PM
Suggestion: 
When you have an art opening you invite everyone.  Therefore, if you have a singles gay, straight, or otherwise event, invite everyone as well.  Why not?  Especially after the most recent uneventful singles night.  I love my gays boys.  I can't imagine being at a gathering without them.  My lesbian girls, I LOVE YOU TOO! ;)
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: lizzy92885 on December 07, 2008, 12:01:20 PM
I want a lesbian singles night! I keep going to the pride center just down the block and have yet to see a lesbian.  Maybe having something like this in a cafe is less intimidating, so pleaase help a chica out.
Title: Re: Singles Meet and Greet at Espresso 77!
Post by: Jeffsayyes on December 11, 2008, 12:00:46 PM
I think if you want an event to happen, it's important you recruit for it too to make it a success. Not just mention it and expect 77 to do all the legwork for you. I'm not sure if they do any advertisement outside of the coffee shop. I'm not faulting them though, they can do whatever they want. It is your responsibility though to create a word of mouth if you want to have a good time.
so, lesbians, if you get yours, tell your friends, tell your friends friends, post it on event sites and message boards and slip it into conversations with strangers. Learn from straights's mistakes's. take ownership of your event and make it big!